I recently just read "The Alchemist" by
Paulo Coelho during one of the many rainy days stuck inside my three tiny
roomed house. As the rain beat down on cement sack roof I was enthralled into
the journey a shepherd who was trying to realize his dream and discover his
treasure.
Realizing your dream, or trying to realize your
dream is something we can all relate to. For me what comes to mind is my Peace
Corps service in that just being accepted in the institution of development
work was a dream in itself. A quote from the book has particularly captivated
me,
"The secret of life,
though, is to fall seven times and get up eight".
This quote truly resonates with me right now. It
is a quote that has pushed me through the last, give or take, seven months of my
service. It is the secret of success and survival inside and out of the Peace
Corps. And I guess at this point in my life, it is me.
I guess this is the point where I lay down
my cards, where I divulge what really has been going on for the last few months,
where I explain the silence. It isn't a pretty story but a beautiful lesson of
strength, endurance, trust, perseverance, and oddly enough faith. So, here
goes....
...It it all started the weekend after I came
back to village after my successful Women's Day Event. Dropped off at my door
by my trusty motorcycle driver I noticed my jar was ajar and was soon told my
neighbor that she noticed my door was open. I might just add that if I was in
the United States and my neighbor told me that my door was open I would freak
out and call the police and demand a full on investigation before even taking a
step in, however I live in Benin, West Africa where animals are constantly
breaking into my house and I don't have a police station in my village so I
brushed it off and chalked it up to the animals. I called the carpenter and
asked him to come the next morning to fix the door and the lock which is
happily agreed to do. Exhausted from African travel I passed out extremely
early only to be awoken by the worst thing you can possibly imagine hearing,
someone breaking down your door. Literally frozen in the dark without any
weapon, without neighbors home, lying in my bed while someone defiled the place
I called "home". Frozen with fear I heard someone take my months salary,
and walk from one room to the next. That next room happened to be my bedroom
where lying under a mosquito net, heart pounding, thoughts of death flashed
through my mind. Thank Allah, my neighbor came home at just the right
time that it scared the person from my house. Still paralyzed with fear even
after the intruder left my house I contemplated leaving the house and searching
for help. Visions of me running to my directors house were running through my
mind like a movie but I just wasn't able to move. Saying a prayer, I summoned
the courage, put my flip-flops on that lied next to my bed grabbed my cell
phone, and sprinted out the door.
This is a story I have repeated numerous and
numerous of times. I have told the doctors, my parents, my friends in Peace
Corps, and embarrassingly, or courageously, a psychologist. I have replayed
that night like a nightmare, I have put a face to the stranger, I have taken
sleeping pills, I have filled out a depression questionnaire, I have been
depressed, I have cried, I have been afraid of the dark, I have not slept, and
I have been scared. I have fallen, truly have fallen, but got back up only to
fall again until the big question came, should I stay in Peace Corps. I can't
really say what made me stay, I like to think it was courage. The courage to
accept I could not change, the courage to admit when I needed help, the courage
to cry, the courage to tell Peace Corps that I could not stay in my village and
wanted , no demanded, another.
So, few months later and I am now in a new
village. Tobre, which is located up north in the department called the Atakora.
I lived in a gated in area with a family, and not just any family, I live in
the Queen of Tobre's concession. Yup, friends and family..I am a princess. The
language is Bariba and my Bariba name is "Yangui Bouillion" which
means Fourth Princess. I adore my family and have started learning the
language. I also attend mosque five times a day which makes everyone in my
small village very happy, and I'm happy to report makes me extremely happy as
well.
It's pretty wonderful how good it feels to be
stronger, to feel happier, to be thankful I got up that eigth time.
Dear Ally--Thank you so much for sharing your story---it really touched my heart---you are surely a princess--sending much love and I will also start praying for you as I do my Zoe--Frances
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